Turning the other cheek feels good
How many times have you found yourself in situations(especially at home) where you were provoked to talk back, you did it back and there and felt like tension increases... Perfect recipe for an argument. There are times where problems arise because of misinformation and this is where we should react and correct it. However usually people fight due to their different opinions or bad feelings. It happens mostly at home - this is where we spend the most time and where we feel most comfortable to express what we think.
Today I learned it takes a lot of inner strenght and character to keep your mouth closed when you think you are so right and it's just not the right time to say it. I had some nice spiritual experiences which helped me feel good about myself that day so I wasn't going to let spoil it. Then I heard some not appreciative opnions from my beloved husband on some of my actions and I decided to say nothing. I knew it would only contribute to creating a bad atmosphere. Within a couple of minutes the situation repeated and I still wanted to keep that warm feeling for the rest of the day so I didn't say anything at all, either. That was so against my nature, but not at this moment. Guess what the result was. In the next couple of minutes my second half shares cookies between us and the kids and says : "The first one will be for the most important person in this house". I have not heard such a compliment so far. And he had absolutely no reason to say that at that moment (Radek doesn't say things if unnecessary, believe me). Something had broken him. I think he knew he cannot go anywhere further with these unkind remarks.
Now I know what to do next time. Nothing. Just sit quiet and win. And wait for kisses , flowers and compliments.